CHANGES IN YOUR CHILD’S LIFE: BRINGING HOME A NEW BABY
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This is a stressful transition for everyone involved, including parents (see Chapter
and other siblings. There is a major disruption in routine for the whole family. Sleep is invariably disrupted as the baby’s needs are attended to, and tiredness may result in increased tension within the family. There may be increased expectations of other siblings, who will be required to take on increased responsibility and help with the new arrival, and around the house generally.
Sibling rivalry is especially common with the birth of a new sibling. An elder child will often resent the arrival at home of a new sibling. Frequently he will regress in his behaviour. Competencies he has acquired, such as being dry at night, will be lost temporarily. He may begin to suck his thumb, wet the bed at night, and will request drinks in a bottle or a nappy at night. He may resent the attention paid to the new baby and want his mother’s attention during feeding time. All of this is normal behaviour, and parents should not be overly concerned.
Sometimes the sibling rivalry may be expressed physically, with a toddler actually hitting the baby, out of anger at the intruder. After a time, this usually settles down, but may resurface again when the new baby becomes mobile at around 12 months of age. Again the new sibling’s ability to interfere with the older child’s activities may give rise to feelings of irritation and anger. This sets the scene for what often seems an ongoing battle.
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